Remembering How It Was
Earlier today, I read this post on Facebook. As I read it, I cried as I thought about my Mother that passed away April 2012. How true the words were, and it challenged me to think about other relationships.
LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER:
“My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.
If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.
When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?
When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.
If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.
And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.
When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.
I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”
Why pass this on to a homschooling community? Because it made me think about the times my children were learning to take not just their first physical steps but also the many first steps during their infant, toddler, elementary, secondary & college years. And, it made me think about all the first steps they will take in their young adult and aging years. Plus, it made me think about how we will interact with each other as we age.
Homeschooling allows parents a unique opportunity to teach our children, as well as, a better understanding of each other. May we remember as parents how it was for us in school as our children go through all the awkward years of life while attempting to remember all the facts & figures of each subject PLUS learning to become the men & women God purposed for them.
May we remember.